Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Do I have sucker stamped on my forehead?

What is about getting work done on your car leads to spending at least twice what you expect? I always think it's because I'm a woman and appear not to know any better to the mechanics. Of course, I recognize my first mistake. I went to the dealer. Yes, I know. You should NEVER go to the dealer!

But let me explain why I did. I went because I thought there might be something wrong with my fuel injector. Less than a year ago I had to have it replaced and had the line flushed. I had it done at the dealer because it was under warantee. So I figured if there was something wrong with it they would fix it.

So as you already guessed, that's not what was wrong. It was actual the battery. So in addition to the $29.95 oil change (yes I know you get that done for under $20 other places), I also got suckered into the upsell. I bought the second most expensive battery because it's under warranty for 60 months. If you're thinking sucker, just wait.

I also paid to have my windshield wipers replaced. Yes, I know they charge you at least double. But to be honest, mine have been shot for about a year now and I can't bring myself to buy and replace them. The last time I tried to do it myself I couldn't get them on right and got all dirty. So I guess it's a matter of convenience really. And pay for that I did.

My first clue I should have just gone to Pep Boys, where I never feel taken just because I'm a woman, was this dealership was the mack daddy of dealerships. There was an internet cafe with free Starbucks (think mochas, cappuccinos, hot chocolate, etc.), two big flat screen TVs, free WiFi, a salon & barbershop, movie theatre and a full gym. The pamphlets on the table touted these ammenities stating "So... Why would you bring your vehicle anywhere else?"

The last time when it was the fuel injector I did got someplace else first, but wound up at a dealer anyway because of the warranty. Today I figured I'd just save myself the trouble of two stops. Plus, it's less gas that way, right?

So I sipped my free Starbucks and watched cable news on the big screen TV and waited. When my car was ready my service agent told me they added in a complimentary car wash. When I told one of my friends she said, "That's not complimentary, you paid $200 for that car wash!" How true! I probably should have taken a second Starbucks to go.

I know I got ripped off. I miss the days when my dad used to change my oil, windshield wipers, etc. And he I'm sure he knows it. I usually call him and tell him everytime I have to get something fixed on my car to make sure I'm not being taken advantage of. In fact, I'm sure he'll laugh at this when he reads it.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude


Now I'm breaking a promise.. sorry but I couldn't resist!

Okay, I know I promised no New Kids on the Block blogs until the Today Show concert. But I just got this e-mail a few minutes ago:

We’ve been hard at work rehearsing and are VERY excited to announce our initial tour dates to our members FIRST!


Check out the below dates for AMERICAN EXPRESS cardholders pre-sale and general public on-sale information!
VIP TICKET PACKAGES will be available starting Friday May 2. Visit for more information.
Don’t forget to tune in to The Today Show on Friday May 16!

Sat9/20/08 Montreal, Quebec Bell Centre
Sun9/21/08 Toronto, ONAir Canada Center
Tue9/23/08 East Rutherford, NJ Izod Center
Wed9/24/08 Uniondale, NY Nassau VETERANS MEMORIAL Coliseum
Fri9/26/08 Boston, MA TD Banknorth Garden
Sat9/27/08 Atlantic City, NJ Borgata Hotel and Casino Event Center
Sat10/4/08 Chicago, IL Allstate Arena

What about Tampa? All right, you don't have to make fun of me! I already know I'm pathetic. Wanting to see a bunch of 30something former boy band members pretend they still have what they had in the late 80s early 90s.

In fact, I was reminded of how pathetic I am for wanting to go at my friend's kickball game last week. One of the teams on her league is called NKOTB and they had a portable radio playing New Kids songs during the game. Even I wouldn't play those songs in public. I don't even have them on my MP3 player for fear of mockery from my friends.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

P.S. Since I broke my promise and I know tons of you don't care about NKOTB, I will post another blog later today.


Tuesday, April 29, 2008

I'm cheating.. a little

Instead of a typical blog today, I'm going to share one of my columns. I know a lot of you don't get to read Attitudes magazine since you don't live in Sarasota or Manatee Counties. And unfortunately at this point, the articles are NOT available online. So since May's is about to be published, I figured I'd share April's with you now. Hope you enjoy!

Dear Attitude Readers:

I’ve been so busy since I introduced myself to you last month. After swearing on my favorite pair of Manolos to give you the best advice I can, some of you still seem hesitant to e-mail me your problems. But you’re definitely not shy about what you think is acceptable behavior.
Recently Miss Attitude had a dating disaster of her own, getting dumped before the first date by a man she met on eHarmony. After talking on the phone for several hours and multiple text messages we made plans for a date. But two days later, I didn’t hear anything from him, not a call, not a text message.
Then I finally received an email.
“I have really enjoyed talking with you but some things have come up personally where dating would not be a good idea for me right now. Sorry for not calling you back but I've just been really busy for my own personal reasons. I really wish you luck in looking for someone you seem like a really sweet girl.”
Some of you definitely had something to say about that.
“Not only is it poorly written, it's in poor taste. What a lame-o.”
“This is romantic evolution. This man is not one of the fittest of the species, so clearly he would not make a good mate. And his lame email is just natural selection at work. You are the top of the food chain and he’s just plankton.”
Cheating also came up. What makes people be unfaithful? How do they go home at night with that lie tucked away and not feel guilty?
One reader admitted she knew it was never okay to cheat, but justified the behavior anyway.
“It is wrong, unfair, dishonest and sleazy. In most cases, I presume, the person cheating still loves their significant other with all their heart. But something is missing. Maybe you’ve had conversations with that person, serious conversations. And things change for a day, maybe two. But then, it goes back to nothing. No help, no passion, no romance.”
I know I’m single and try not to judge, but just get a divorce and then do what you want to do. I believe when you’re married Even as a single person, I would never knowingly have an affair with a married man. Period.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

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Monday, April 28, 2008

Disordered eating

The other day while on the treadmill I was reading through my latest copy of Self magazine and read an interesting article about "disordered eating." I'd never heard this term before, but I couldn't stop reading the article because the more I read the more I thought they were writing about me.

I've struggled with weight most of my adult life. I'm short so when you gain a few pounds people really notice. I'm also an emotional eater, which I've mentioned before. I've had a rough two and a half years and unfortunately used food to comfort the stress. But at the beginning of the year I decided to change that. I wouldn't call it a new year's resolution, but a lifestyle change.

I may have mentioned this before. But here's my biggest confession about that change. I'm obsessed about it. When I'm eating healthy and working out, I feel great. When I cheat and head to Mc Donald's, I feel bad about it. But I know I don't have an eating disorder. I've never starved myself, I like food too much for that. And I've never purged either. I hate throwing up, even when I'm legitimately sick so I can't imagine doing that to yourself either.

So this article says 6 in 10 women are "disordered eaters."
Sixty-five percent of American women who responded to a national survey by SELF are disordered eaters. Eating habits that women think are normal—such as banishing carbs, skipping meals and, in some cases, even dieting itself—may actually be symptoms of the syndrome. Although disordered eating doesn't have the lethal potential of anorexia or bulimia, it can wreck your emotional and physical health, says Cynthia Bulik, Ph.D., director of the eating disorders program at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and SELF's partner in the survey. And it's everywhere, afflicting women like your sister, your friend, your coworker—or you.

If you read the article online you can even take the Self quiz to find out if you're at risk.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Sunday, April 27, 2008

Texting: Dating do or dating don't?

During the past few weeks I've given the use of text messaging a lot of thought when it comes to dating. In a way, I truly believe texting is one of the biggest problems. I know it's an easy way to check in and send messages during the day. Believe me, I use it all the time with my friends. And yes, I even use it to communicate with boys. And before I go any further, I don't mean the term "boys" to be disrespectful, it's what I call men. And yes, I still call women girls.

Anwyay, the past few weeks one of my friends has been texting back and forth with this boy. They've known eachother for a while from a group setting type deal. But even to me, it appears like he's very interested in her. So the texting went from a few hi, how are you? kind of texts to a little more sexy.

The other night we were all out together and in person it just seemed like he didn't have the nerve to ask her out. The next day she and I were texting about how we were confused by his actions. "When did boys lose their balls?" she asked. And I replied, "They've gotten lazy. I think text messaging is part of the problem. They don't have to call anymore."

But we seem to play right into it too. Many of the girls I know, myself included, kept texting them back or in some cases as I've been known to do initiate the text. We never once seem to tell them "Pick up the f'n phone and call!" or "Take us out on a date, damn it!" Instead, we play the games too.

When I decided to write this entry today I googled texting and dating. I found an interesting article "Romancing the Phone: Txt Luv Dos & Don'ts" written a couple years ago. And I found this tip really applies to what I'm writing about:
DO wait until at least the third date before you engage in "textual relations" with a new love interest. Be sure sexy or intimate texts are well-received before firing off note after note.

Now I wonder if the writer thinks anything has changed since 2006. Because I certainly do. "Wait until the third date?" What happens when they aren't even asking you out on the first date? Do boys even ask you out on dates anymore? Isn't it just easier to tell you where they're going to be with their friends so you'll come meet them there? Or what about using it as a way to tell you things they're not confident enough to tell you in person?

Since I'm mentioning my friend and she thinks I always use her for topics in this blog, I have to do some full disclosure. Sadly, I've been much guiltier of using this texting technique during the past few weeks. At first I sort of blamed it on the fact I tend to be interested in younger men and that's how they're used to communicating. But now, I'm doing the same thing with a man who's a few years older than me. A man I have actually known for years, though the flirting just started last week in person. So now what's my excuse? And how can I get annoyed that he won't call me and ask me to go out somewhere when I'm not doing it either?

I want to hear from you. Is texting killing the romance? Is it just a cop out? Is it easier to deal with rejection from a text than on the phone or in person? E-mail me your stories at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude


Saturday, April 26, 2008

$900 sheets

So last night I was at a bar in South Tampa with two of my friends. At one point I look over and one of my friends is talking to this guy. They seem to be having an interesting conversation almost like he's flirting with her, though I'm convinced he's gay. She leans over and brings us into their conversation.

She wants to know what we think about spending $900 on a set of sheets. Apparently that's what this guy has done. My immediate reaction is this guy freakin' kidding me? He clearly has too much money if he can spend that much on sheets for his bed. And then I think why is he even telling her about it? Who would brag about that? For some of us that's two or three car payments!

He proceeds to go on and on about his 1000 count (or higher since I didn't really pay much attention past the mention of the price tag) sheets and how comfortable they are. My other friend looks at me and says "I'm not getting it. Is he lying?"

Both of us excuse ourselves and head to the bathroom. Yes, we did have to go to the bathroom, but it was also our chance to discuss this guy. We get in there and we're laughing about it. I'm still talking to her while I'm washing my hands and she's in a stall. That's when two other girls walk into the bathroom.

I can't help myself. I tell them about this guy and his ridiculously expensive sheets. The one girl who just walked into one of the stalls opens the door back up just to joke with us about it. The other one looks at me and says, "Only gay men spend $900 on sheets!" See I'm not crazy. My gaydar is usually pretty accurate.

So we head back to the bar and he's moved on to talking about something else, but I can't stop thinking about the sheets. I just don't understand and I tell him that. He then explains "the pillowcases were included." As if that makes it better! Seriously what is this guy's deal?

A few minutes later I overhear him telling her about his Harley. Now, I know those are pretty darn expensive too. And I'm not trying to stereotype, but I don't know too many gay men who drive Harleys. I'm sure some of them do, but none of the ones I know. So maybe I'm wrong and maybe he's straight, which I'm beginning to think since he leans over and tells her he doesn't normally do this, but he's going to give her his phone number.

He gives her a card. He's a pilot for a big shipping company, which maybe explains the money. He tells her he'd like to maybe hang out sometime and with that he leaves. Then, I'm even more confused. Maybe he was bragging about his sheets because he wanted to get her in them. If so, why didn't he even bother to buy her a drink?

Seriously, he kept telling her to order a martini, but then never offered to pay for it. If he has that much money and he's bragging about spending that much cash on sheets, he should have offered to buy her at least one drink. It would have been the gentlemanly thing to do in my humble opinion. Especially if he's not gay and wants to take her out on a date.

As I sat down to write the blog today I told another one of my friends about this guy and she said, "That's just asinine that's just somebody who has more money than they know what to do with?

Stylishly yours with my Ralph Lauren sheets from Marshalls,
Miss Attitude

Friday, April 25, 2008

I'm no model... but I she made me look good

The photo shoot for the magazine was a lot of fun. I knew right away I liked the photographer. Her name is Lisa Wiseman and she's from San Francisco. As soon as I got out of the car she looked at my shoes and said, "Are those Manolos?" Then we both said, "Black, patent leather, Mary Janes!" Her photo assistant looked at us blankly and I clued him in that it's from Sex and the City.

I wore the outfit I bought Wednesday and showed her the others I brought and she picked my second choice. Then we walked over to the first location. She picked this great spot downtown at the public library. I have to admit I wouldn't even thought of shooting there, but I guess that's why she's the photographer.

I was still a little nervous and I knew she could tell. I told her I'm used to being the one behind the scenes, not in front of the camera. I admitted that I hate having my picture taken. And ladies some of you know where I'm coming from on this one, I told her I just didn't want to have a double chin in a photo for a national women's magazine. I felt better just telling her my concerns and she gave me a little tip how to stick my chin out for photos to stop that from happening. BTW, it really works!

I admitted to Lisa I had checked out her website before the shoot and really thought her pictures were beautiful. She told me several of the people on it are "real people" not models. So I thought, well maybe she can make me look that good too.

The one thing I really enjoyed about working with her was she actually showed me some of the shots she was getting to make sure I liked them too. It made me feel much more comfortable with the whole thing. She also told me for someone who doesn't like to have her picture taken, I'm very photogenic and have a beautiful smile.

And I got kudos for being a good model because I followed directions really well. When she said move to the right an inch, I moved an inch. When said move forward a step, I did. She said you'd be surprised how many people don't understand what moving an inch is, they'll take huge steps and not be where she wants them to be. Maybe she was just saying I did well to make me feel good, but it worked.

After an hour, we went to a second location downtown. While most of the shots at the first location where taken from a distance where I was smaller and the building was larger in the background, this time she took a lot more closeups. That's something that made me even more nervous. I told her, I don't normally let anyone with a camera get that close to me. She said she'd take that as a compliment.

And again, she showed me some of the shots as she was getting them. There were actually a few where I though, wow I can look that good?!?! But those shots were tricky to get. I had to put my chin down, stick it out just a little, then relax, then smile. And I'm one of those people who can't just smile naturally, I have to make myself laugh. So every time she was getting ready to take a close up, I had remind myself again chin down, stick it, relax and laugh to get a smile. By the end, I finally felt like I was getting the hang of it. The photo assistant even said I made a "really great model" and I looked really good.

So I guess you'll get to be the judge of how the photo shoot really went when the magazine comes out in July. And after much debate, because I'm supposed to be anonymous, I've decided to tell you anyway it's Marie Claire. I hope you'll remember to buy a copy in July.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Two hours and counting..

The big photo shoot is in two hours. The photographer just called. She's picked out the two shooting locations and she asked me if I picked out my outfits. Of course I have.

Okay, I confess I went shopping yesterday. I bought a new shirt and top (and jewelry) from White House Black Market. I spent way too much, but having four outfits was way too much pressure.

I've got to go do my hair and make-up. I'll let you know how it goes when I get done.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

My photo shoot

Tomorrow is my photo shoot for a national magazine. At first I wasn’t sure about sharing the good news on my blog because I’m supposed to be anonymous, but what the heck! I’m going to be featured in a popular women’s magazine in July. The features editor e-mailed Miss Attitude a few weeks ago. She came across my blog about being unemployed while researching a story she’s working on about women who’ve been pink-slipped and how the cope with it. “I found some of the remarks poignant, witty and even heartbreaking.”

She asked me if she could include me in the piece, and I’ve done two phone interviews and answered a few more of her questions by e-mail. So next up is the photo shoot. I have to tell you I’m not really sure what to make of this. The only thing I know about photo shoots for women’s magazines is what I read about famous stars like Reese Witherspoon, Sarah Jessica Parker, etc. showing up looking relaxed in their Paige Premium or True Religion jeans, Dolce & Gabbana or Gucci blouse and a string of designer accessories. Then the makeup and hair stylist get to work and they’re given even more expensive designer clothes to wear for the shoot.

Believe me I know I’m not famous. And I know my photo shoot isn’t going to be anything like that. But, they are flying a professional photographer to Tampa for the shoot. I have to show up with my hair and makeup done. I need to bring any makeup I may need to reapply like powder or lipstick. I need to wear business attire and bring three options of clothing changes.

That was probably the most surprising part. It was hard enough to pick out one outfit I like enough. How am I supposed to come up with three outfits that I look good in? I promised myself I wouldn’t go shopping for this photo shoot. I’ve talked myself out of it several times. But after the conversation with the photographer about the extra outfits, I don’t think I have any other options. And while my work clothes are more Ann Taylor Loft than designer labels, the clothes still aren’t cheap. Oh, I almost forgot. I’m supposed to bring whatever accessories I might want to wear too. Decisions, decisions.

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely no slouch when it comes to dressing. I’m often complimented on my work outfits, accessories and of course SHOES. But being in front of co-workers is different than appearing in a national magazine. The only part of the outfit I’m not worried about is my shoes. Of course, I’m going to wear my favorite (and only) pair of Manolo Blahniks. The shoes are FABULOUS and go with almost everything. Wish me luck! I’ll let you know how it goes.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Even Rick Astley has problems sleeping (and no it's not RickRolling!)

I decided to stick with my sleeping problem theme and who better to help then the much talked about Rick Astley!?!?!

As you probably guessed, I didn't fall asleep early last night like I planned, unless you think 3:30 a.m. is early. It was the same deal, I got more wide awake at midnight.

Then finally I read, but again my book choice was not quite calming. I'm reading The Tenth Circle by Jodi Picoult. As with most of her books, it doesn't exactly contain the most uplifting subjects for falling asleep.

Here's someone else who can relate to my problems.

But this little guy doesn't share my problem.

Okay, now you can tell I'm sleep deprived. I never put animal videos on blog, in fact, I never send them in forwards and rarely open them when sent to me in e-mail. But he is cute:)

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Monday, April 21, 2008

Problems sleeping

I've told you before about some of the challenges of being unemployed, but this one is definitely a hard one to beat. I've been having a hard time falling asleep. Often I stay up until 2 or 3 a.m. because my mind is going 100 m.p.h. In fact, it seems that my mind really kicks into gear about midnight, instead of slowing down. So then, after I finally fall asleep I usually wake up about three hours later, and again 3 hours after that.

Last night I promised myself I was going to bed at midnight so I could get up at a decent time this morning and walk before it got too hot. So at midnight I turned off the TV and the computer and went into the bedroom. I got out my book from book club and starting reading. The next thing I knew it was 2 a.m. and I wasn't the least bit tired. Plus, I was so close to finishing the book. So I kept reading. Then it was 3 a.m. and I finished the book.

Now, I realize the stress and anxiety of being laid off is keeping my mind busy. And, I'm guessing reading a book about people getting laid off (Then We Came to the End) isn't helping. But now that I finished that book, maybe I can find a little lighter reading tonight. But what other things can I do to relax?

I tried for some tips on helping me sleep. But not much of these tips are looking like a great plan. Power napping? To me a nap is a two hour in bed event, not a quick 15 minutes on the couch. Listening to music, I guarantee that's not going to quiet my mind. Now a massage sounds great, if only there was someone to give me one:) The same goes for this fabulous tip:
For those in a committed relationship, sex is known as a great nighttime stress reliever for a reason! Not only does a healthy sex life enhance your relationship, but it relaxes your body, releases ‘happy’ chemicals, and even promotes wellness. And, of course, it welcomes sleep.
What so now on top of being unemployed and having trouble sleeping, you're rubbing it in that I'm single?!?!?!?!

How about any of you? Do you have any tips for falling asleep and staying asleep when you're stressed or anxious? E-mail me at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Is this what I'd have to do to get 6 million page views?

Not a lot to say about this one, except how do people even come up with these ideas?
And who knew it would take four hours to put in 155 t-shirts?

Sunday, April 20, 2008

Do men only want what they can't have?

One of my loyal blog readers sent this e-mail to me:

Miss Attitude,
I was just on and there's an article about Anna Kournikova saying she never wants to get married.
And there's another article from her boyfriend Enrique Iglesias saying he's been trying to get her to marry him for months.

It left me thinking.. do men only want women they can never have?
I wonder how Anna and Enrique's relationship would be different if Anna had been leaving bridal magazines around the living room.. and telling him what size her ring finger is..
Perhaps he'd get bored.. and want to move on..?

Is the key to getting the man you want.. unavailability and disinterest?

Just something to ponder!

After reading it, I really started to think about what she was asking. Do men only want what they can't have? Well, Miss Attitude tries to not to stereotype when it comes to men, at least not too much, but it is an interesting question. If Anna had left bridal magazines laying around and professed how much she wanted to get married, would Enrique be as interested in getting married? And does this apply to any man?

After a lot of thought I've come up with the answer that it all depends. I've never been a "Rules" kind of girl, and I don't think being unavailable and disinterested is the best way to get the man you want, if he's a man worth having. And I don't pretend to know a lot about the relationship between Enrique and Anna, but if he truly loves her I think he'd still want to marry her if she was the one pushing for the marriage.

On the other hand, I think there is a little truth to men wanting what they can't have. And believe me, it's not just men, many women do the same thing. It's the challenge, the thrill of the chase. But when you find yourself in one of these relationships, I think deep down you know he or she is not really the right person for you.

Miss Attitude is a hopeless romantic at heart, and truly believes all of the games and the challenge crap go away when you find the right someone. I have a very very dear friend who in her single days knew a lot more about the rules and the chase than I ever did. When she went out, she was on a mission. But when she met the man who is now her husband, all of that b.s. just went away. She didn't have to play games, she didn't have to trick him. He fell in love with her for who she is and wanted to marry her.

What do you think? Do men only want what they can't have? Do you have a story to share? E-mail me at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Call me Professor Attittude

I have some great news. Miss Attitude is going to be teaching college classes. It's been in the works for several months, but now it's official. I was on the campus earlier this week filling out all of my paperwork, getting my I.D. and registering my car.

I'm so excited about this opportunity. Teaching is something I've wanted to do for as long as I can remember. But I must admit, I'm a little nervous too. Since the classes are during summer session, I will be teaching two nights a week for four hours each night. I'm not sure how I'm going to keep the students interested for that long.

I'm working on my syllabus now, which by the way, I haven't seen one of these since I was in college. And a lot has changed since then. Not to date myself, but we didn't have internet access. We finally got e-mail my junior year, but it was new and hardly the accepted way to communicate with professors or anything. I typed all of my papers on a word processor.

A few techie people did have computers with internet access, but it was a pretty new concept. I think they finally offered a course on the Web my senior year, but by then I was interning in TV and really just taking classes to finish and graduate.
The students now don't know anything other than the Web and texting.

I actually have to write in my syllabus do not use your computer during class for Facebook, MySpace, YouTube, etc. and don't think about text messaging. I can't imagine how different my college experience would have been if we'd had all of those things. I also think of how distracting it is to know that it's all there waiting to be read while you're sitting in class with the boring professor rambling on.

So, that's my challenge. I have to keep it interesting and engaging while teaching them what they need to know. I'd say that is a challenge. But one I'm really looking forward to. Wish me luck!

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Thursday, April 17, 2008

This is sick!

I can't believe what I just read on

TAMPA - A letter written by John Evander Couey has found its way to an Internet auction site selling items that belonged to well-known murderers and serial killers.

Photographs of the letter and envelope were posted today on the Web site with an opening bid of $7.99.

"I think it's pretty sick and twisted," Mark Gelman, the attorney of Mark Lunsford, said. "The whole concept is completely disgusting."

I can't believe that anyone in their right mind would try and make money off something written by a child murderer. John Couey is one of the sickest men I've ever seen. What he did to 9 year old Jessica Lunsford is horrifying. Not only did he kidnap and rape her, he buried her alive. No one should want to make buck off a letter this disturbing man wrote. Nobody.

According to TBO, the owner of the website, Tod Bohannon, says he simply caters to collectors. "I don't think I'm hurting anybody," he said. "But if they shut me down, I'll fight it within my rights."

So far no one has bid on this letter from that poor excuse for a human being, and I hope no one does.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

10 Things I learned from working in a TV newsroom

1. You’re replaceable. Don’t ever forget they can find someone else to do your job for less or do away with your position altogether.

2. Don’t gossip. News people are born gossips, so your secret is never safe with anyone.

3. Only argue when you know you’re right. Others lose confidence in you when you’re wrong.

4. Know how to handle a crisis. Hurricanes, Amber Alerts, etc. will teach you quickly if you don’t already know how.

5. Learn how to manage your boss. Anticipate his or her needs, communicate—don’t whine, ask for more responsibilities and beat deadlines.

6. Complement your coworkers. Most of them are working as hard as you are. Plus, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

7. Always be prepared to work 12+ hours without a break. You never know when there’s going to be breaking news or a coworker is going to call out sick)

8. Be flexible. Again, with the breaking news. You never know when you’ll have to switch to a new story or put together a newscast in 30 minutes.

9. Clich├ęs are evil. We’re all lucky to be alive, I’ve never breathed a sigh of relief and what isn’t a parent’s worst nightmare?

10. Never make a promise you can’t keep. The story must fulfill the promise of the tease. If not, your viewers lose trust in you. The same applies to life outside the newsroom.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Why is 80s fashion making a comeback?

On NBC's Today Show this morning there was a fashion segment about 80s comebacks including those hideous Members Only jackets and acid washed jeans!

Now they also said Tretorns are back in style and I think I'm okay with that.. not that I'm rushing out to buy a new pair or anything. Yesterday my friend sent me an email saying Jelly shoes are back too. And that I'm not okay with. But then again, I can't get people to stop wearing those ugly Crocs either:(

Neon is also back in style, which I actually have to admit I kind of like if you only wear one item that's neon. I actually saw the cutest pair of hot pink BCBG pumps the other week at Macy's. But promise me if you're going to try neon, don't go overboard like we did in the 80s.. Hideous!

A few months ago, someone seemed to slip in legwarmers like they were acceptable attire in 2008, and let me tell you, they aren't. I didn't even wear them outside of dance class in the 80s! And I still don't believe in wearing leggings. They lived a long happy life in my wardrobe during the late 80s/early 90s and they don't ever need to come back.

So I warn you, please tread lightly with the 80s fashion and skip the Members Only jacket. But above all, please skip the 80s hairstyles! Those big bangs never need to come back in style EVER again.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Tuesday, April 15, 2008

This is pretty cool

One of my friends had this link posted on her MySpace blog. Check it out!

Mario Theme Played with RC Car and Bottles - Watch more free videos

A positive attitude

I've been thinking a lot about how important it is to have a positive attitude. Today one of my friends was telling me about an invasive surgery her mother is scheduled to have. She said two things that really struck a cord with me and I hope she won't mind me sharing.

"it's a very freaky time for us - trying to stay positive when all you want to do is scream "are you fucking kidding me???"
But then she followed it up with this.
"she'll be fine - she's the strongest person I know - it's going to be fine!"

And that's the perfect attitude to have. American author and motivational speaker Zig Ziglar once said "It's not what happens to you that determines how far you will go in life; it is how you handle what happens to you." And I think that is so fitting.

I'll never forget when my grandfather almost died in the hospital after a heart attack four years ago. The doctors didn't give him a very good chance of survival. But we all said no way, he's not going to give up, he's a fighter. And he still is.

I think about trying to maintain a positive attitude every day. I thought about it a lot when I was a manager because you set the tone for your staff. One of my bosses taught me that.

Several years ago when I was a young TV newscast producer, my executive producer heavily criticized me for my bad attitude. First, I couldn't help but think 'well isn't that the pot calling the kettle black?' I could go on and on about her attitude.. but I digress.

Anyway, she went on to tell me that I was a powerful force in the newsroom and that a lot of people looked up to me. So when I was in a bad mood or had a bad attitude, everyone else was in a bad mood or had a bad attitude too.

That comment was really eye opening for me. And from that day on I always tried my best to leave my problems at the door when I walked into work and not look at things like problems, but as challenges.

The boxing legend Muhammad Ali once said “To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.” Enough said!

So how about you? Can you think of a time when having a positive attitude really helped turn your situation around? Or what about when having a bad attitude only seemed to make things worse? I'd love to hear from you. E-mail me at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Monday, April 14, 2008

This is pretty funny

It's hard to remember what we did to entertain ourselves before YouTube, MySpace, RSS feeds, etc. Sometimes I click on the most viewed videos on YouTube just to see what everyone's watching. Take a look at what I found this afternoon.

These kids crack me up! Sometimes I wonder how different my life would be now if I'd grown up with the internet. (Okay, I know I'm dating myself!)

It's also nice to see kids using YouTube as a creative outlet, not for something disturbing like those six teenagers in Polk County who videotaped themselves beating up the other girl while two guys stood watch outside. It's horrific to think children could behave like that! ( Read the latest on the teen beating case here.)

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Sunday, April 13, 2008

Hold up!

Okay, I'm a dork.. watching these extras and all. But I just found something the producers cut out of the show. You have to watch this clip. About 1:30 into it, during the elimination, Bret explains to Daisy the main reason he's sending her home.
A few episodes ago, Daisy mentioned she'd hung out with C.C., but apparently more came out during the trip to Cancun. She's a groupie who'd hung out with his band and his opening bands, but never once introduced herself to Bret. But now she LOVES him and wants to marry him.

You have to admit that's bizarre. Even I went up to him at a show and met him! He makes it pretty easy for fans and I'm sure easier for girls who look like Daisy.

I'm surprised!

Wow, I have to admit I'm surprised Bret Michaels picked Ambre to be his Rock of Love.
I definitely thought she was a better choice than the 25 year old big lipped stripper Daisy. She's closer to his age and actually has a brain. Ok, I bet that sounds harsh, but I don't think she actually formed one intelligent sentence the entire season. But for a while there, I definitely thought he was going to pick Daisy. That seems to be the type he usually goes for.

So let me ask this, and yes I know this is reality TV, did he have to sleep with both of them first to make his decision? If he was truly in love with Ambre, why would he sleep with Daisy? From the beginning you could tell all he saw was how hot she was and didn't really listen to a word she had to say.

One of my friends said "Because he is mesmerized by the body. I'm sure he doesn't even hear her talk. He just fantasizes about what he could do to her."
Now I can't help but wonder, are Bret & Ambre still together? There's a reunion show next week. Stay tuned.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

P.S. For those of you bored to tears with reality TV or Bret Michaels, I promise to move onto another topic tomorrow:)

Who will he choose?

I can't wait to find out who Bret Michaels chooses in Rock of Love 2 tonight at 9.
Please forgive me this quick blog, but I promise I'll update after the show.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

P.S. Why is it nothing's been on TV for months now, and the season premiere of Desperate Housewives is on at the same time tonight?? Thank goodness for the DVR!

Saturday, April 12, 2008

A support team

When I talked about being unemployed last week, I mentioned how important it was to me that I have supportive friends and family. Since writing that blog I've been thinking a lot more about support and how important it is during difficult times in your life.

I recently spoke with an executive coach who says when you're unemployed, or going through any big life change, you need to build a support team and surround yourself with motivating people. And what I've realized is motivating people aren't always people already in your life, they can be new friends you meet along the way or even people who read your blog. One reader sent me this comment:

"As I'm writing this comment and knowing that you are a professional writer I find myself being extra careful with what and how I a little self-conscious. I even looked up a word in the dictionary to make sure it was spelled right, (ok, more than one word).

I just want to congratulate you on being transparent. So many people go through similar situations and feel embarrassed and alone not knowing how to cope. Just knowing that they are not alone can make a difference in someone's life.

I've been there too, so I understand."

Here's what another woman had to say:

"I have been laid off twice, scary, yes, but also a blessing in disguise. The first time it gave me the 'push' I needed to step away from classroom education (I was a middle school teacher) and embark on a career in publishing (I began doing teacher product workshops for Macmillan). The next time it prompted me to start my own freelance writing company.Your silver lining will show itself too!"

I can't tell you how much these comments mean to me. It's very easy to get down on yourself when you're out of work and looking for not only a new job, but a change of career. For weeks I've been applying for jobs without a lot of luck. I know eventually I'm going to find what I want.

But that doesn't make the search any easier. It's hard to go from being a workaholic, easily putting in 70-80 hours a week, to having down time. It's challenging for a person like me, accustomed to going non-stop, to stop and reflect and ask yourself what it is you really want out of your life. But it's also what you need to do. I do know that.

I hope sharing my story helps other people in the same situation, because I know there are a lot out there right now. But you see, it helps me too. There's something about writing it all down and getting it out that makes you understand yourself better.

So thank you to everyone who's read my blog or e-mailed me. I really appreciate the support. Please continue to share your comments or stories. You can e-mail me at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Friday, April 11, 2008

No spam or scams, please

In the past week, Miss Attitude has received at least 4 spam e-mails that were scams. Now, I know I solicit e-mails on my blog, but that is intended for people who want to share their stories or have a problem. It is not supposed to be an open invitation for spam, which by the way I rarely receive on my personal gmail account.

When I first started seeing them, I wondered if these spammers are targeting me because I've written about being unemployed. Look at this one:

From: john stone
Date: Tue, Apr 8, 2008 at 11:01 AM
Subject: THE answer to you're unemployment woes

Miss Attitude,

I have the answer to your unemployment woes. Check you're e-mail, maybe you got one like I pasted below. (I Googled the name of the "deceased" and found others that are being offered $10.5M as well)

Anyway... If you did not, maybe you can help me collect and I will make it worth you're while?

Good luck with the job search!

From: Kenneth Mashaba & Associates Managing Partner(Mashaba Chambers) Republic of South Africa. On behalf of the Trustees and Executor of the estate of Late Mr. Brian York, I once again try to notify you as my earlier letter was returned undelivered. I hereby attempt to reach you again by this same email address on the WILL. I wish to notify you that late Mr Brian York made you a beneficiary to his WILL. He left the sum of Ten Million Five Hundred Thousand Dollars (USD$10,500.000.00 ) to you in the
codicil and last testament to his will.Please if I reach you as I am hopeful, endeavour to get back to me as soon as possible to enable me conclude my job. I hope to hear from you in no distant date. Yours in His service, Barrister Kenneth Mashaba Esq.

Now, do you think Miss Attitude is a sucker? First, Huey Lewis is the e-mail address. Second, if something sounds too good to be true, IT IS! And finally, Miss Attitude has already disclosed she's worked in the media business for more than a decade, so why would you think she'd fall for this scam?

I also received another one that promised me I could earn $5,000 a month with no startup costs. If that was possible, wouldn't we all be rich and sitting at home collecting the cash????

So if you're looking for a sucker, please don't bother. You're wasting my time when there are people out there who really want to share suggestions, stories and problems with Miss Attitude.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Thursday, April 10, 2008

Online dating.. take 2

I saw this ad a couple weeks ago for It claims to be "Where dating gets social." Though I'm not 100% sure what that means. The website promises you can "Meet quality singles or play matchmaker for you friends."

The deal is you post your picture, information about yourself and what you're looking for in a match. Then, this is where it's different than or, you invite your friends to join too. Then, you can introduce your single friends to other people online and recommend them.

So, I decided to sign up and I invited three single friends to do it too, two women and one man. So far, I've only exchanged e-mails with one guy on there. One of my friends says she's had two messages since signing up Tuesday.

"One was some random guy from Illinois that told me his life story. I really didn't understand it. The other one was a 42 year old from Brooksville. That was kind of creepy. He wrote that he couldn't stop staring at my picture all night and wanted to talk to me. Maybe this website is a bad idea."

Yes, that is creepy. But I told her to keep trying, it's no scarier than starting to talk to a guy in a bar you don't know. So she found one that looks good.

"Should I send him a note? I'm so new and scared about all this. I need to man up (for lack of a better term.)"

I told her to e-mail him! My other female friend hasn't even put up a picture yet. But my guy friend seems to be trying. I introduced him to a girl I found on the website, but he didn't think they were a good match. Now he's picked one for himself and two of us voted yes for the match.

I'm still not sure about this site, but I figure we can all give it a shot. What do you think? Have you tried Engage yet? If so, I want to hear from you. E-mail me at

If you haven't tried it, but are thinking about it now because of my blog I want to make sure everyone knows Engage does not do background checks. Match doesn't either. Eharmony does, but only if you pay the extra fee. State lawmakers in Florida are currently debating a bill that require dating websites to do background checks or disclose when they don't. Read more about the bill here.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Tuesday, April 8, 2008

Asking for help

I got an e-mail from someone asking for help in reaching an important goal. She's walking in the Breast Cancer 3 Day October 31- November 2. And she needs to raise $2,200 in donations.

Leona is dedicating this walk to her family and friends who have suffered from breast cancer. You can help her reach her goal Click here to donate.

One of my closest friends did the 3 day last year along with her mother-in-law, a breast cancer survivor. She said it was the hardest thing she'd ever done, harder than running a marathon!

I think every person across the country and here in the Tampa Bay area who participates in this event is amazing. Last year I participated in the Making Strides for Breast Cancer walk in Sarasota and it was inspiring. The 5k was an easy way for me to show my support. But 60 miles in three days in nearly insane!
Please show them your support.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Sorry Tigers fans

I know a lot of my friends in Memphis are licking their wounds today. It was such a disappointing end to a great season. It's a shame the Tigers threw it away at the foul line in the last few minutes of the game. But there's always next year, right?

Monday, April 7, 2008

Go Tigers!

Let's go Tigers! I want to see them beat Kansas and win the National Championship title tonight. And on the prediction is 75 to 70 Memphis.

When Miss Attitude lived in Memphis, she had to sit through many many bad football games. I actually left Memphis just as basketball season was kicking into full gear, not that I regret the move back to Tampa one little bit. I just checked in with one of my friends and she's excited and nervous all at the same time.

I know Memphis fans need this win a lot more than Kansas does. And I'm tired of hearing the whining about the fact they're Conference USA and not a big basketball school. We'll just see about that!

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Rock of Love 2

Okay, to go with my late 80s early 90s theme I'm blogging about Bret Michaels and Rock of Love 2. After asking a few of my friends, I'm not the only one addicted to this reality TV show. In fact, my one friend still enjoys telling everyone how we met him at a show nearly as much as I do. And yes, we have the picture to prove it!

Anyway, next week is the season finale of Rock of Love 2 and I have to say I just don't believe he's going to end up with either Daisy or Ambre. (Sorry ladies if you didn't watch this week's episode.) Brett sent Destiney home packing.. after she got a Rock of Love tattoo on her neck! Sound familiar? Heather got one last season, and then she was sent home.

Now, I'm not a Destiney fan but why the heck to she admit to the other two girls she wasn't in love with Bret? Though she did actually have a point, how do you fall in love with someone so quickly especially when you don't know if he returns the feelings?? Still, why admit it so they can sell you out? I also thought Destiney had a bigger chance of staying after Bret met her dad who loves to ride motorcycles and is dying of liver cancer.

I guess he realized she was just a groupie, not someone to fall in love with. Instead we're stuck with Daisy (the big lipped, big boobed, crying stripper) and Ambre (who let's face it he's not going to pick because she's 37 and isn't quite crazy enough!) So I guess my money's on Daisy at this point. Bret seems to like kooky. And the more bizarre it gets, the more he's attracted. I mean she lives with her ex-boyfriend and didn't tell anyone, her ex-boyfriend's sister is the closest family she has, she's dated CC in Poison and she cries all the time! Though I still think he liked crazy Kristy Jo a lot more!

Guess we'll see next week who's going to stay and rock his world!

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Sunday, April 6, 2008

NKOTB Reunion.. it's official!

This is just in case you missed it on Friday! The first actual concert since 1994will be on the Today Show on May 16.

This is one of my favorite comments I've received so far. It's from my younger cousin who went with me to a lot of the New Kids concerts!

"as soon as that red curtain dropped i turned into a 12yr old again. i got goosebumps, i had a huge smile on my face, i was all excited. i'm a dork. but i have to say, they all looked GOOD! even joe and danny!"

I had to laugh because Joe and Danny were our least favorite New Kids! And I, myself, feel like a dork talking about it so much too.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

P.S. If you don't care about the New Kids, which I know a lot of you don't, I promise to suspend blogging about them until next month's concert.

Friday, April 4, 2008

Another thing that's hard about unemployment

So here's another thing that's hard from unemployment. Aside from looking for a job in this economy and worrying about paying the bills, there's another problem with having too much time on your hands. It's hard to lose weight and not gain it!

At the beginning of the year, I made a lifestyle change what it came to mhy diet and excercising. I didn't want to call it a new year's resolution because I never keep those. So I started eating healthier and walking a lot more. Some of you may remember I walked my first 1/2 marathon last month. Ater all of that hard work I lost some weight, but I'm no where near my goal yet.

So imagine being at home most of the time for three weeks. It's very tempting to eat. A lot. I'm also an emotional eater. The last time things got bad in my life, I ate to deal with it. That's why I gained the weight in the first place.

And on top of it, I've been doing some freelance work that has taken me to some of the best restaurants in downtown and South Tampa, during lunchtime! It's been hard, but I've been trying to stay on track. I even lost two more pounds this past week. I've also started exercising again. I have to confess, after the 1/2 marathon I've been a bit of a slacker. I was always so tired after work and the hour commute home from Sarasota. I figure, now that I have a little more time to myself, I have no excuse. I even lifted weights, focusing on my arms one day this week. I can't even tell you the last time I did that.

If you have any helpful tips to resist the urge to snack, I'd love to hear from you, especially if you've been unemployed before. You can e-mail me at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Thursday, April 3, 2008

And you thought your job was bad....

Sometimes when I see people working out in this Florida heat, I think to myself what a bad job to have. And today it was 85 degrees in Tampa. But what made me stop this afternoon, wasn't just the heat.

Take a look at the picture to the right. How would you like to be these guys? Fixing the Marriott sign, 27 floors up, above the water? Not my idea of fun!

So what's the worse job you've ever had?
E-mail me at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Can priests use MySpace?

Miss Attitude got the most unusal "friend request" on her MySpace page. The profile says the man is a priest. A 38 year old Roman Catholic priest. Now I'm a little skeptical of this profile.

First, if he is a priest why is he on MySpace? Doesn't he have more important things to do? Second, under orientation it says "straight." And then there's this:

"Someone recently asked me why I had so many "myspace female friends". Perplexing...Hmm, just because I am a priest, and cannot ever marry or date anyone (because I gave up all of that to serve the Church) doesn't mean I can't have female friends!"

It all seems a big peculiar to me. And then if he's not really a priest, why would he be pretending to be one? What would be the point in lying about that? Although I did notice his graduation dates from high school and college don't add up to his age, unless he was held back four years.

As you know, Miss Attitude is on MySpace to get the word out about her blog and her column. So I usually don't turn down "friend requests." But this one leaves me a bit unsure. Oh, and did I mention the picture? It's kind of creepy, very close up. It looks like he took it himself.

Should I send him a message and ask if he's for real? Or should I just ignore the request? E-mail me at

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Being unemployed

I've been debating about writing this blog for about three weeks now. I've been debating it because it's very personal to me. But yesterday, I remembered hearing the voice of my college creative writing professor. He told me to write only about what I know. He praised me for being a talented writer, but thought I only wrote about trivial topics. So, Dr. Waters this one is for you. And for me too.

According to unemployment is the state of being unemployed, esp. involuntarily

It's the especially involuntary part that hits home. Three weeks ago, my employer laid me off along with several others. And I know this has happened to some of my friends, relatives, heck it's happening to tons of people across the country right now. But it's happened to me twice in the last two years. Last time it was a management change at a tv station where I worked for nearly seven years.

And while it isn't as devastating this time around, it still hurts. And I'm still embarrassed, I still feel betrayed, I still feel like I did something wrong or that all that hard work was for nothing. And that definition of unemployment definitely isn't in the dictionary.

Or maybe it's a sign. Maybe I'm meant to do something else with my life. Maybe I'm supposed to be doing more than spending ten hours a day in a newsroom, two hours a day commuting, teaching everyone to use proper grammar and spell correctly and answering phone calls from employees 24/7. Maybe I should use my passion to find another career. It's definitely time to readjust and reassess.

The biggest challenge for me is I'm not a sit and home and lick my wounds kind of girl. I'm more of let's go get another job ASAP kind of girl. So it's been tough to take some time for me. I'm doing some freelance writing work (yes, Miss Attitude will still be published in Attitudes magazine) to keep me busy. It's also getting me out there to meet new people and experience different things. Which is a nice change from sitting in one place for ten hours a day!

I'm also using this time to enjoy the life I was letting pass me by while I was working so hard. I've already been able to enjoy dinner with friends more often, heck one of my friends even invited me over and cooked me breakfast. I've been able to go walking on Bayshore Boulevard and enjoy this beautiful Tampa weather instead of being too tired or it being too dark to go. I even gave myself permission to go out to the pool yesterday and read a book in the middle of the day!

And lastly, I'm trying to be appreciative for the things I do have. And with impending mortgage payments and no full-time job, it's tough, believe me. But I'm very thankful for my supportive family and friends. My closest friends have always been there for me and they are again this time too. Plus, sometimes situations like this make you appreciate people you may not have even considered close friends. They've all been so thoughtful, generous and caring.

So maybe being unemployed isn't such a bad thing. Maybe it's really just the kick in the pants I needed to make my career more rewarding to me.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

P.S. If you're going through a similar situation, I'd love to hear from you. You can e-mail me at

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

New Kids on the Block reunion

Okay, I know all of my guy friends are making fun of me right now. And probably some of my girl friends too. But I couldn't resist a blog about my favorite boy band New Kids on the Block.

Yesterday reported Donnie, Jonathan, Jordan, Danny and Joey are getting back together. And they're going to be on the Today Show Friday! Sadly it's just in time for the 20th anniversary of Hangin' Tough. Wow, I'm old! If that album is 20 years old.. but I'm getting distracted.

There have been rumors about this reunion for a while now. And I have to tell you, I'm not really sure it's going to be a hit. A few years ago I saw Jordan, my favorite, in a club in Ybor City. Yes, I withstood the mockery of everyone I know including the guy I was dating, to go see the show with one of my friends. The show was very tragic. While, I still think Jordan is just as adorable now as he was then, it was pathetic. He was playing the keyboard and singing along to New Kids on the Block songs. It was like a car accident though, you just couldn't look away. And for him, I guess it was still good, there were tons of groupies waiting to get back stage.

And now let's talk about the last reunion they had. The one when the relaunched themselves as NKOTB. I've never been more disappointed by a concert in my life. I was in college, and again withstood the mockery of my friends including sorority sisters who proceeded to tell a bunch of fraternity guys where I was instead of at the party I organized.

First, we stood outside in line for the club for a long time. Then when we get there we stand around and waited, and waited. There's no opening act and NKOTB is really late. Finally, finally they take the stage and it's with a bunch of "fly girl" type dancers bumping and grinding on them as they sang. Well if you were a New Kid fan for as long as I was, you didn't want to see some hoochie mama practically making out with the one you've have a crush on. Wait, I guess I'm sounding a little bitter for a 30+ woman, huh?

Back to the show, it was very short, maybe 45 minutes, and they sang a bunch of the new songs, which no one cared about and didn't even know. It was a total rip off. They acted like they really didn't want to be there and all they wanted was the money. Which is maybe all they're after this time!

Since he started acting seriously, Donnie hasn't wanted anything to do with a reunion. And Jonathan, with his stage fright, has repeatedly said he wants nothing to do with going back to singing. But Jordan, Danny and Joey have all kept a hand in the music business and I bet it would be great for their careers. So how did they get the others to agree? And will thirtysomething men be able to woo the hearts of the ladies while carrying a tune and dancing around like they did in their teens and twenties?

All I know is I'm going to be watching.

Stylishly (& slightly embarrassed) yours,
Miss Attitude