I'm going to try not to cry

One of my closest friends is moving more than 600 miles away this week. I'm having my goodbye lunch with her today. I can't begin to tell you how sad I am. Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy for the opportunities she's going to have, but I'm incredibly sad. We've been through a lot together during the last several years. We've been through bad dates, bad relationships, losing jobs, getting new jobs, moving away and moving back. We've gone through different dress sizes, different hair styles, even different hair colors.

Yesterday she told me how she didn't cry once during her last day of work. She wanted to share because she knew I'd be proud of her. But I'm not sure I can do the same at lunch. I know we'll still be good friends, that won't change. But it's hard to imagine my life without her living nearby. The last time she moved away, heck the last time I moved away, I think we both knew in our hearts we'd move back to the Tampa area. This time, I'm afraid, she's leaving for good. And I don't know what to say. I know, I'm rarely speechless.

During the past few months I've been encouraging her to make the best career and lifestyle choices for herself, never once thinking about what I'd be losing. Then I've spent the past few weeks in denial. Today is the reality. She really has been there for me more times than I can count. She's always refreshingly positive and makes me see the silver lining without making it so cliche or pukey sounding. When I lost my job in March she never said anything as trite as everything happens for a reason. Instead we ate ice cream and started brainstorming what my next opportunity would be.

I have so many great things to say about her, but know I'm not doing her justice in my sad, sleep-deprived state. Hopefully I'll have something more poignant to say when we go to her all-time favorite Tampa restaurant for lunch. I have so many memories of our times together and honestly have a hard time remembering life before I met her. She's one of those friends who will literally drop everything she's doing if you need help. She's the one on the sidelines saying "you can do it" when you just want to quit. There aren't enough words to express how lucky I've been to have her in my life. So for now, I'll just tell you how fabulous she and I'll miss her.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

This just in... Courtney Courtney's dreams come true

Courtney Dempsey and Gary Courtney won their dream wedding from US Weekly. I want to thank all of my readers who voted, and voted, and voted!



Click here to watch their thank you video.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Deal with it!

I'm cranky, tired and PMSing. Oh, and I have to work two jobs today. I owe this inspiration to my Pleep cajunvegan. If it's good enough for her, it's good enough for me. I try not to use the Memes too much, but you're going to have to deal with it!

I do promise I have a much better post brewing for tomorrow or Thursday. It's actually quite sad and happy all at the same time. So bear with today's post and maybe you'll learn a little bit more about me. Many of my friends know I never answer these e-mails when I get them. In fact, I never responded to this one when I received it weeks ago. So here it goes:


1. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? I don't think so, my mom just liked the name.

2. WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU CRIED? Can't remember, but sure it wasn't that long ago.

3. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING No, has the worst handwriting ever. It's quite embarrassing. Maybe I should have been a doctor!

4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? Boar's Head roast beef

5. DO YOU HAVE KIDS? No

6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? Of course, I'm freaking fabulous! Oh, and famous:)

7. DO YOU USE SARCASM A LOT? No, never! (What do you think?)

8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS? Yep.

9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? Hells no! If I jump off a bridge it's not to come back up!

10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL? Fruity Pebbles or Cocoa Krispies. Though I love me some Wheat Chex and Cheerios. (My dad wouldn't let me get sugary cereal as a child.)

11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF? Most of the time, though the only shoes I have with ties are sneakers for working out (which get worn less and less these days.)

12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG? Nope. I need to start working out again.

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM? Ben & Jerry's Coffee Heath Bar Crunch.

14. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE? Probably their shoes.

15. RED OR PINK? Pink

16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF? My big butt!

17. WHO OR WHAT DO YOU MISS THE MOST? That's a tough one. I have several friends who've moved away (or I've moved away from) I miss dearly. Plus, I don't see my family nearly enough.

18. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO SEND THIS BACK TO YOU? I would be a hypocrite since I never reply.

19. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING? I'm not wearing pants! I'm in a tank top and boxers. Blue and blue and white stripes. Woo hoo!

20. WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU ATE? Spaghetti with whole wheat pasta.

21. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? Is watching TV, not listening to music.

22. IF YOU WHERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE? Fuschia

23. FAVORITE SMELLS? The beach, strawberries and chocolate.

24. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE? Miss Sassy

25. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? Yes, BrwnGirl is an amazing woman who's been so kind and generous to me. She allowed me to live with her in Washington, D.C. when I freelanced. I can't wait to see her this weekend when she's in town.

26. FAVORITE SPORTS TO WATCH? Football in person or on TV. Baseball is best to watch in person. But been watching more on TV recently. Go Rays! (Let's ignore losing streak and remember they went from last place last year to first place up until two days ago.)

27. YOUR HAIR COLOR? Is not sure. Sort of an unnatural brown with red and a little blond sneaking in there. Thank goodness I'm going to see my hairdresser Friday. I had to confess I dyed it myself due to lack of funding.

28. What kind of email do you like to receive? I love to get updates from friends I don't see very often or funny WTF-type e-mails from my closest friends. I also enjoy getting the comments from this blog forwarded to my e-mail. Y'all crack me up!

29. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS? Yes

30. FAVORITE FOOD? French fries

31. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS? Give me a chick flick over a horror film any day!

32. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED? Baby Mama

34. SUMMER OR WINTER? Summer, hello I moved to Florida for a reason.

35. HUGS OR KISSES? Depends on the person. I'm not a very affectionate person.

36. FAVORITE DESSERT? Mike's Pies Key Lime Pie or ice cream.

37. PERSON MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND? N/A since I'm posting

38. LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND? N/A since I'm posting

39. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING NOW? Wish You Were Here by Steward O'Nan (though I'm not getting very far!)

40. WHAT IS ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? No mouse pad. I'm on a laptop.

41. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON TV LAST NIGHT? The Big Idea With Donny Deutsch (to see who beat me for the satellite video slot.

42. FAVORITE SOUND? The sound of the ocean or the gulf.

42a. Least favorite sound? The sound of the phone ringing when I'm sleeping

43. ROLLING STONES OR BEATLES? Stones

44. Your Favorite Movie Of All Time? Gone with the Wind (please don't judge me)

45. DO YOU HAVE A SPECIAL TALENT? That's for me to know and you to find out;)

46. WHERE WERE YOU BORN? Baltimore, MD

47. Where Is Your Favorite Place To Shop For Home Decorations? Crate and Barrel online since we don't have a store or Pier 1.


Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

P.S. I do believe that took more work than writing an actual post! WTF?!?!?!?!

So much for fame and fortune!

I thought I was going to make my national TV debut tonight. I was asked to be a guest on The Big Idea With Donny Deutsch on CNBC. I'm was going to be talking about how I got burned by being an alpha female. I can't tell you how excited I was to be a guest on this show.

The talent producer contacted me yesterday. She read about me in Marie Claire and thought I'd be perfect for the segment. It's interesting because I've tried to be very PC when talking about being let go from two different TV stations in less than three years. Then I shared my story with a national magazine, remaining very diplomatic. So could I remain that way on cable news?

I started telling my friends. Then after two phone conversations with producers, several e-mail exchanges, submitting an 'in my own words' and two tips for other women, I found out I wasn't going to be included after all. Here's the e-mail I received.

"Thanks for all your cooperation, but I don't think we'll be able to fit it into the show. We only have time for about 2 minutes and he said he would want to hear the whole story...not just a quick hit. So hopefully, we'll be able to have a bit more lead time, next time and I can contact you for a show that has a bit more breathing room. Thanks again.."

Easy come, easy go I guess. Maybe I'm too alpha female for Donny too!

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Imaginary Bitches.. what would my friends think?

Have you seen Imaginary Bitches on Youtube yet? If you haven't, you should check it out.



This episode cracked me up! While it's not quite Sex and the City, it's definitely entertaining. I wish I'd thought to do something like this. (Produce these for YouTube, not have imaginary friends!) Though I do wonder what some of my friends would think if I had two imaginary bitches to keep me company while they're with their husbands and boyfriends. Probably that I lost my mind. But wouldn't it be cool to blame all your evil thoughts or actions on an imaginary friend, like you did when you were three or four?


Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

The "Honey-do" list

For the most part, I'm content being single. There are times, though, I wish there was someone to share with. And I'm not just talking about sharing the good times and the bad or my deepest darkest secrets. I'm talking about sharing the chores! It's no fun to make a "Honey-do" list for myself!



This week was so crazy most of the chores did not get done. The dry cleaning never got picked up/dropped off, laundry still needs to be put away, the sheets still need to be washed and the dishes are sitting in the sink mocking me. Embarrassingly enough, one of my friends came over last night before dinner. I can't believe I allowed her to not only come in my disorganized mess, but I actually allowed her to see my bedroom. Something I never do when it's in this state. I usually keep the door closed and my closest friends know that's where I shuffle the piles when I'm having a party. (Heck it's a party trick I learned from my mother! Why mess with it?)

Guess what? Next weekend I'm having people for a little pre-party for the FlugTag . It's very clear to me there won't be any time during the week to clean, so it must happen this weekend. And in my opinion, it's not a fun way to spend a weekend. I hate cleaning! Who does?

So this brings me to the fact that being single I have no one else to ask to help with the chores. Several of my married friends have recently complained their husbands don't help without being asked. I guess I'm not the most sympathetic when it comes to this cause. Heck if he still does it, what's it matter if you have to remind him? I've never been married and can't even begin to ask someone else to help me with the dishes or go grocery shopping. Imagine if on my next date I ask a guy if he'd mind folding my laundry or taking out the trash? Wait maybe I'm on to something....


Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

Did he lie or just change his mind?

Dear Miss Attitude,

I am writing to in the hope that you will be able to give me some advice.

I have been married for 5 years and this July I will be 32 and my husband will be 29. We met and fell in love very quickly but our courtship was long-distance so we talked and email a lot... We talked extensively about all the major issues and we both agreed that we wanted to have children - not right away but it was certainly something we both wanted.

As time has moved on, my desire to have children has grown and grown... We have discussed when to start a family and what started out as 'I need a bit more time' from my husband has turned into 'I am not sure I ever want children'. He feels bad because he knows it is important to me. I feel betrayed that he has changed his mind and I feel bad because I know I definitely do. We have been discussing it (and then shelving the discussion) on and off for about 18 months-2 years. Our relationship has suffered because of this but we have both made efforts to improve things and at the moment, things are pretty strong.

I have considered that he is younger and perhaps he will change his mind - how long do I wait to see? Do I just decide to stay with him regardless? If I do this, will I resent him? I have suggested we see a therapist to try to talk things through since he can't seem to make sense of his feelings. He refused initially but since I raised the issue again recently, he seemed more open to it. I am not sure it will help (or at least, get me the answer I am looking for).

This seems to be a very common problem (having Googled it quickly) but there seems to be no real constructive advice or support for this.

I look forward to hearing your take on this even if it is not what I want to hear.



Dear Reader,
I've been giving your problem some serious consideration and you're right, there is no simple answer. The best advice I can give you comes from what you're already thinking. I definitely believe seeing a therapist is a step in the right direction.

It's important to figure out if your husband is simply not ready or doesn't ever want to have children. There could be reasons behind his change of heart or he may not have been completely honest to begin with. Your husband may be more frank with an impartial third party, and conversations like this are often better mediated with a licensed therapist.

I don't think you have to rush to make a decision since many women who are older than you have children every day, but I wouldn't suggest waiting much longer to have these conversations. If you know being a mother is simply something you aren't willing to give up, then you can't afford to simply hope he's going to change his mind. You have to know for sure and make an educated decision about your future.

In the end, only you can know for sure if it's worth staying with him regardless. But if you give up your dream of having children, it's a pretty good bet you will resent him.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude

P.S. Don't forget if you need advice, you can e-mail me at missattitude@missattitude.us

(Reader e-mail has been condensed and name removed for anonymity.)

Do boys call anymore?

Here's what I want to know, do boys bother to call you anymore? Or do they really think texting is the only way to communicate? A few months ago, I ran into a boy I used to work with several years ago. For some bizarre reason it seemed like we were both interested in each other now, when it had never really been an option or possibility before. Okay, maybe it's not so bizarre. He's very cute and a lot of fun. He was married and I used to be his boss. Guess that's why. Anyway, after an exchange of phone numbers and text messages it seemed to me like we would never actually get together in person. And while frustrating, I'm not going to beg a boy to ask me out to dinner. Then a few weeks ago, while in Key West with my friends, I received a text message from him on a Saturday night. "What are you doing?" it read. I didn't respond.

Here's the deal. I was out with my friends. And honestly what was the point of responding? I hadn't heard from him for weeks prior to that and the last time when I actually (gasp) tried calling he only texted back. So I figure ignoring it was my best bet. Then while on vacation in Ocean City, MD one of my friends sent me an e-mail saying he was asking her about me. He told her he'd been trying to get in touch with me for some time now to have dinner and our schedules never match up, etc. He mentioned the ignored text and asked if I was mad at him. She told him she didn't think so and that I was out of town for the week. Then the following day he told her he'd checked out Miss Attitude and wanted to know what the blog was all about. I'm not sure why I'm telling you this part, except I guess to recognize it's possible he's going to read this blog entry so I'm choosing my words carefully!

Anyway, more than a week later I still hadn't heard from him. I knew I should just let it go. But the attitude in me just couldn't, so I e-mailed him. (Wait, before you criticize me for e-mailing and not calling, I have to confess I no longer had his phone number.) Within a few hours, he e-mailed me back with an included "I figured you were mad at me." And still no invitation for dinner. I don't know why I expected anything different. It's obvious this just isn't going to pan out. So the answer my friend is no, I'm not mad at you. I'm just no longer interested in playing the game. If you ever want to go out to dinner, I'd love to go. All you have to do is call me and ask.

Stylishly yours,
Miss Attitude